[To the reader: This is less a story and more of a warning. Disclaimer – As I write this, I know that it is from my singular point of view. I fully realize I’m not perfect…every single day.]
I’ve lived in a foul marriage maximum of my existence. I’m positive the indicators have been there early on, however I used to be too silly, love struck, and starry eyed to note. I used to be too impatient and simply couldn’t wait to have intercourse; unhappy and pathetic, however true. It’s all my fault actually: the blame for no longer ready on God, no longer looking for God, and no longer following God’s will rests squarely on my shoulders. And so do the consequences.
I used to be stored in my teenagers however didn’t totally give up to God till perhaps a decade later; mistake #1. I adopted my very own will and my very own means. This led me to a girl who used to be—or gave the look to be—what I sought after. I solid forward and married her regardless of being warned that I wasn’t able; mistake #2. I wouldn’t totally notice the depths of badness till we have been married a couple of years; mistake #3. By way of then, in fact, it used to be a ways previous too past due. I used to be totally engaged and trapped in a wedding that has in each and every means attempted me previous any prohibit I ever concept I had.
So, that’s the caution. Position God first for your existence, search Him first, agree with Him with the whole lot, maximum particularly your mate. If He says wait, no, or sure, simply agree with Him.
My spouse is my first and handiest. I’ve been tempted, however I’ve by no means strayed. However straying isn’t the one solution to fall, it isn’t the one solution to sin, and it isn’t the one trail to distress.
A foul marriage—any marriage that isn’t God’s will—has in retailer a cacophony of voices that can check out their highest to guide the Christian off the trail of religion. Marrying the unsuitable particular person will introduce you to trials that The Lord by no means supposed so that you can face. Anger, bitterness, even hatred wait for the stored soul that used to be too impatient to watch for God’s will.
A confession: I wrote “2d Likelihood” after seeing the girl I deserted to hunt my very own will. It’s completely true proper till the phase the place I knocked on her door. She by no means married. No longer handiest did I break my existence for no longer ready, I additionally ruined hers. I’m no longer in lust for her, however I do reside in feel sorry about.
I don’t look ahead to judgment day on account of my many disasters. I’m penning this gloomy and doleful confession to warn someone who hasn’t but made my errors. Please don’t. He isn’t value it. She isn’t value it.
No marriage is highest, and existence is hard sufficient even though you marry God’s selection for you. Don’t create for your self an extra 1000 techniques to fall.